If they do not decide to give me on their own then so be it...I will not ask
Sometimes, people who say these statements have systematically been injured and disappointed by people they relied on or depended on....thereby vowing never to ask for help again. But the truth is.. they need that help.
It will be good if we start helping, giving (even if they do not ask for it) as well as interacting with such people and by so doing, they will heal and begin to trust again.